Tuesday, August 19, 2008

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It’s amazing to think of all that we have accomplished in the five years of knowing each other and two years of marriage. We've been fortunate enough to see each other through many highs and a few lows. We've visited many places that most people only dream of. We've chased and caught many of our dreams, and best of all we've done it as a team. What's equally fantastic is this is only the beginning!

While it is unfortunate that we must spend our anniversary apart this year, one day is livable when I think back to our history. It simply comes with the territory. When you meet someone so unbelievable there isn't a question as to what you do to build a strong foundation together.

Before we were married we survived two years separated by an ocean and a 6 hour time difference.

Those two years were filled with so many visits, phone calls, letters, and reuniting airport hugs that they would be impossible to count. I believe it made our friendship, communication, and feelings stronger. We learned patience, trust, and what a blessing each and every day is.

There wasn't time to take things for granted, and now that we've been through so much we don't let a day pass without showing and telling each other that we are thankful and appreciative.

We made the conscious choice to stick through struggles and invest ourselves wholeheartedly in the relationship, while also taking the time to invest in ourselves and our futures.

Looking back I wouldn't have it any other way. I truly believe distance is a wonderful challenge for a relationship and if it can withstand that, there isn't much you can't make it through together.

Stefan's humor, charm, work ethic, and sincerity are just a few of the things that I admire about him.

I also appreciate that he loves me for being me, and never once asked me to give something up or change myself to fit his agenda. What would have been easiest was if one of us dropped everything and gave up a bit of ourselves to be together, but we gained so much more in the long term by taking the road less traveled. The unorthodox approach was a testament of our strength and dedication to each other, and now the reward of being together is that much sweeter.

Rather than wallowing about how unfortunate it is that we must be apart (after all, we have two weeks together as soon as he's back), my friend - the ever wise and eloquent Lane, made a fantastic suggestion. She said that I "should celebrate the fact that I'm still my own person, the person that Stefan loves so much".

That opens up a lot of exciting things... perhaps I want to cook something spectacular and enjoy a quiet evening with a great movie, or take myself to a museum. If the weather is nice I could head down to the Isar river banks and read, sketch, and simply enjoy the sun. It's rather exciting when I look at it like that. It's a wonderful day to celebrate life, love, and happiness - all for simply being myself and having found a wonderful person that loves me for who I am.

I am excited and blessed to have such a fantastic partner in the adventure of life.

8 comments:

Caitlin said...

What a great post and yes, that Lane is so smart. Hope you are out right now celebrating being you!

Bluefish said...

You're a true inspiration! I'll soon have a long-distance marriage and it's really important to communicate with each other. Happy anniversary by the way:).

Holly said...

What a sweet post! Congratulations!

JoernandAllison said...

What a sweet way to honor the special marriage you two have! Happy anniversary, and a belated congratulations!

Emily said...

caitlin...
I know that you can relate!

holly...
Thanks so much!

allison...
Thank you as well - it's so nice of you to think of us.

Emily said...

bluefish...
Thanks so much! I hope you don't have to be apart too long - but at least you will have happy times to look forward to visits.

Anonymous said...

This is my favorite post - inspiring. I'm where you were years ago: two years of hellos and painful goodbyes at the airport, Skyping, texting, emailing, etc. and in a few months, we are taking the big leap and moving together. It's scary, yes, but it feel right. It's the next step as it should be. I know there will be new challenges to face and there always will be but I am looking forward to facing them together this time.

Emily said...

Anonymous...
Congratulations! Even though it may feel like a big leap you'll have many incredible and exciting adventures ahead of you and most importantly you'll have each other! That's so exciting. It's always nice to know others that make it work.

Wishing you the best!